I know what you're talking about. The stable I was riding when I was little (read 7 years old) there was one girl, just one, 'more' than the others. She was allowed to do everything. And we (read all the other kids) weren't. Besides that I was very happy there, because all the others were te same.
After 5 years I went to a real manege, just to see what was the difference. That was almost the way you described. If you had a horse for yourself you'd fit in, but did you have to ride on the horses owned by the manege, you were nothing at all.
After two years 'hell' I went back to the stables were I was before. Now there were a lot of changes, no, not in the first few months that was just the same but then came the foot and mouth disease. After that horrible period everything was different. we went to another stable (read, the owner of the stables, she fel in love withe the neighbor. So we went from one building to another, and that changed everything. Everyone was the same and we were all happy.
Now I have a Shetland pony and I am still the same as all the others. It's not like:' you don't own a hose so you're nothing' it's not like that at all. We are all The same. and I am very happy with that!!
So, I think that there's a difference between stables and maneges..
(sorry, I hope you can understand my story, because my English is not so good. I’m just 15 years old, so I haven't a large collection of words in my head)
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